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There's a myth about sex addiction you need to be aware of. The sexually addicted person is portrayed as constantly pressuring his partner for sex. Although that is a symptom of sex addiction, there is another symptom that is widespread and may be more prevalent. Many sexually addicted men sexually ignore their partner. The partner feels unattractive, unwanted and undesired. Let's call it sexual neglect.
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Another indication of sex addiction is emotional neglect. The sexually addicted man is sexually active with his partner, but during the lovemaking the connection lacks involvement. Another sign of emotional neglect is it's almost impossible to get your partner to talk about serious issues. Still another sign is that he could be in the same room with you and you might as well be a piece of furniture, or he's too busy to spend time with you.
These and other symptoms of sex addiction are caused by what I call, The flight from intimacy. The flight from intimacy is the underlying cause of sex addiction.
Sex addiction creates a distorted emotional connection to fantasy. By correcting the flight from intimacy, that distorted emotional connection to fantasy loses its appeal. Then the addiction can be overcome with a very good chance of long-term success.