Overcome Pornography Addiction

Right click to download all 48 chapters of The Most Personal Addiction for effective and positive advice on how to overcome pornography and sex addiction at no charge.

The Escape Factor and Sex Addiction

The process of escape begins with experiencing an uncomfortable feeling, like anxiety, fear, guilt, boredom, stress, etc. The options for relieving uncomfortable feelings lead to two separate experiences. One is beneficial; the other is far from beneficial. The most effective option is to face the discomfort and work your way through it.

You can stop addictive behavior any time. The real test of success is whether or not you stay in control. Effectively dealing with the escape factor is necessary for long term success.

The ineffective option is escape. That's where addictions come in. Addictions are escape mechanisms used to temporarily relieve uncomfortable feelings. For the addicted person to really overcome an addiction, he or she needs to learn how to face uncomfortable feelings rather than trying to escape them.

 Conventional, licensed therapy and the 12-step program fail at this requirement. Therapy encourages you to blame your problems on your childhood. In other words, "Escape responsibility by blaming it on your parents." Or it encourages you to rely on psychological medication, which means, "Numb your feelings rather than deal with them." The 12-step program fails at dealing with reality because you are encouraged to rely on the group rather than yourself. In effect, the group becomes your new escape mechanism.

To overcome the escapism that causes sex addiction you need to learn how to:

Face your feelings for what they are rather than rely on psychological medication to block them out.

Realize you are responsible for your problems. Mom and dad did not cause you to become sexually addicted.

Use an approach that encourages self reliance.

Let's apply these principles to real life. Bill, George, and Larry just got fired from their jobs. Bill goes home and indulges his sorrows through masturbation with porn. George spends hours on the phone with his 12-step sponsor talking about how badly he wants to go to a hooker. When they hang up, George calls an escort service. Why? Because being with a hooker would be more pleasurable than talking to his sponsor again.

Larry comes home desperate to hit his favorite porn sites. He knows that the cause of his addiction is not in his childhood because his best friend, Tom's, parents were both alcoholics, yet Tom never developed a problem with alcohol or drugs.

Larry had tried psychological medication. It emotionally numbed him and it caused him to lose sexual interest in his girlfriend. He has also learned through good counseling that nothing is as effective as facing reality.

He struggles through a long night of feeling depressed, angry, and confused. But he has one thing going for him – the human mind. As he allows his mind to face the problem, he realizes that losing his job was not the end of the world, even though it felt that way at first. He knows he can recover from it because the human mind is built to survive much worse crises than losing a job.

Bill and George wake up the next morning feeling disgusted. Larry wakes up feeling what every person needs to overcome sex addiction: the confidence that he can rely on himself and that he can make the best of life no matter how bad things get.

Sex addiction is the symptom. Escape is the cause.

The information in The Most Personal Addiction, will help you cope with the escape factor.

Menu: Home | The Most Personal Addiction | Sex Addiction Help | Porn Addiction | Masturbation Issues | Infidelity | For The Partner | Contact | Survey

Articles in this category

Pornography Addiction Counseling | Pornography Addiction Insights For Men & Women | Pornography: The Illusion Addiction | A Sex Addiction Interview | The Sex Addiction FAQ | The Intimacy Factor and Sex Addiction | The Escape Factor and Sex Addiction | The Fear Factor and Sex Addiction |

 

Contact Info

Dear Joe,

When I first contacted you, I had tried to quit "cold-turkey" many, many times before. After acting out my addiction, I would swear that this was the last time and I'm never going to do this again. But, as sure as the sun will rise tomorrow, I would be back to my addiction within weeks, if not days.

I contacted several people from sex addiction support groups. Every one had the same advice for me: Get into a twelve step program and start attending as many meetings as I possibly could. Well, that simply would not work for me. After I read your book, I called you, and after one conversation, I decided that I wanted you to help me.

Thanks to you, I am now able to have a normal, intimate relationship with my wife. I thought that I had loved her as much as I possibly could. But, during the counseling, I saw that my addiction was actually getting in the way of our relationship. I was indulging in this fantasy world that I had built up around me and I had little intimacy left over for my wife. Needless to say, this was having a negative impact on us not to mention making me feel guilty all of the time. Now, I'm more fully able to express my love for her, both emotionally and physically.

My work has improved as well, as a result of your counseling. I don't spend hours every day trying to appease my addiction. Needless to say, this has greatly increased my productivity at work.

For the first time in my life, I have hope. I can finally look at myself in the mirror and be happy about the kind of person that I am. I know, at last, that I am being true to myself; that I am being the kind of person that I always knew I was deep inside: a loving, faithful husband. For this, you have my undying gratitude.

Bertram [real name withheld]

If you would like to know more about how sex addiction is overcome, it will be my pleasure to spend a half hour talking to you and advising you about how to overcome your addiction at no charge.Whatever you tell me will stay in confidence. I will not try to make you feel guilty. I will not try to humiliate you. I will try to help you. Even if we never talk again, you will find that the time you and I spend speaking to each other will be beneficial to you.

You're welcome to call me at: 866-414-CONTROL (866-414-2668) 

Call 877-332-2869 if the circuits are busy (International calls: 805-214-1377)

skype-icon Skype joe.zychik

Monday thru Friday 9 a.m. to 8 p.m., Pacific Time Ask for Joe Zychik

Snail Mail: Positive Realism 9732 Pyramid Way #327 Sparks, NV 89441

Please note:
THE BEST WAY TO CONTACT ME IS BY PHONE (for e-mail click here)
(International callers' FAQ click here)

 

Download all 48 chapters of the book thousands of people have used to help them overcome sex addiction, porn addiction, masturbation addiction, infidelity and the various other forms of sexual addiction

Right Click, Save Target As

Download/Print

To download, right click, choose "Save Target As"
To print, left click
Adobe Acrobat is required

Copyright © 1999-2013 Joe Zychik
Ownership of copyright: The copyright in this website and the material on this website (including without limitation the text, computer code, artwork, photographs, images, music, audio material, video material and audio-visual material on this website) is owned by the author, Joe Zychik.
Copyright license: The author grants to you a worldwide non-exclusive royalty-free revocable license to: 1)view this website and the material on this website on a computer or mobile device via a web browser, and 2)print pages from this website for your own [personal and non-commercial] use. In other words, ALL OTHER RIGHTS ARE RESERVED. For the avoidance of doubt, you must not adapt, edit, change, transform, publish, republish, distribute, redistribute, broadcast, rebroadcast or show or play in public this website or the material on this website (in any form or media) without the author's prior written permission.
The automated and/or systematic collection of data from this website is prohibited.
Permissions: You may request permission to use the copyright materials on this website by writing to the address on the Contact page.
Enforcement of copyright: The author takes the protection of its copyright very seriously. If he discovers that you have used its copyright materials in contravention of the license above, He may bring legal proceedings against you seeking monetary damages and an injunction to stop you using those materials.  You could also be ordered to pay legal costs.

The Most Personal Addiction Copyright © 2002-2013 by Joe Zychik,
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any electronic or mechanical means, including information storage and retrieval systems, without permission from the publisher, except that portions may be used in broadcast or printed commentary or review when fully attributed to the author and publication by names.
Although all events described in the book are factual, the actual characters described herein are composites of actual clients of the author. The composite character has been created and designed to protect the actual client's identity. Any similarity to a single individual, living or dead, is coincidental and not intended by the author.
The statements made in the testimonials set forth in the book are made by individuals who have received personal counseling from the author and are based on the results of that counseling. The individuals were not compensated in any manner for the statements made. The original testimonials are in the possession of the publisher and may be viewed with the permission of the testifier and the publisher.
This book is intended as a guide to understanding sexual addiction and to suggest a method of overcoming it. The advice rendered by the author in this book is based solely on his experiences in over 38 years of personal counseling. The author does not guarantee any certain result to the reader of this book. The author and the publisher shall not be responsible to the reader or any third party for any action or inaction by an individual who attempts to apply the methods set out in the book.