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Masturbation Addiction Counseling

Is masturbation always a sin?

Is it always natural?

Is it always an addiction?

Answer: none of the above.

In the field of sex addiction, nothing is more misunderstood than masturbation.

One way to clear up the confusion is to compare masturbation to eating. Let's ask those questions again:

Is eating always a sin?

Is it always natural?

Is it always an addiction?

Answer: none of the above.

Although eating starts out as a natural experience, it can become an addiction. Masturbation like any other natural experience can also become addictive.

Not every person who masturbates is addicted to it. But, if you are addicted to masturbation, you've developed a sexual addiction.

Hopefully, you aren't sexually addicted. If you are, don't look at yourself as if you are an evil pervert. Don't drown yourself in shame. Look at sexual addiction as a personal problem. Be glad you are aware of it. Be glad you want to do something about it.

If there is any addiction that is virtually denied on all levels it is compulsive masturbation.

It is socially acceptable and even encouraged for people to admit other addictions like alcohol, drugs, eating, work, fetishes, promiscuity, phone sex, etc. But the person addicted to masturbation is shunned. In fact, in most cases s/he will be told, "You're not addicted. Masturbation is just another form of sex. Don't worry about it."

Most people discover masturbation in puberty. Some don't discover it until their early adulthood. Along with their discovery of masturbation they encounter the fear mongering that tells them, "Masturbation is a sin." "Masturbation will make you go blind." "Masturbation is not natural," and other misinformed rants.

The advice offered by the defenders of masturbation is just as foolish. The advice can be summed up in one phrase: "If it feels good, do it." They refuse to admit that masturbation can be used addictively. The profession in most denial about addictive masturbation is psychotherapy. For a very long time addicted masturbators have told their therapists, "I have a problem with masturbation." The advice given was, "Masturbation is natural. You don't have a problem."

But eating is also natural; so is work. They can be used addictively and so can masturbation.

One problem with addictive masturbation is that it is non-relationship sex. Instead of healthy, loving sex with another person, compulsive masturbation leads to shallow, fantasy-based sex alone.

Some addicted masturbators completely avoid intimate relationships. Most seek out intimacy and discover that their addiction to having sex alone conflicts with their need for genuine, loving intimacy.

Unlike other sexual addictions, it can be difficult to determine if masturbation is being used addictively. The Sexual Addiction Interview and The Most Personal Addiction will help you decide. For a discussion of the relationship between a masturbation addiction and pornography addiction, read Pornography Addiction Insights for Men and Women.


Dear Joe,

I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the work you are doing. I have been addicted to masturbation and pornography for 33 years (I am 47 now). I found your website the beginning of this week. I called you and you sent me link to download a copy of your ebook. I am almost finished reading it. I am so happy and excited that I can't begin to express it.

I am going to share your book with my wife. I hope she can stand by me, but even if she doesn't, I know that I now have the key to changing my life.

Thank you.


(Real name withheld)

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Dear Joe,

When I first contacted you, I had tried to quit "cold-turkey" many, many times before. After acting out my addiction, I would swear that this was the last time and I'm never going to do this again. But, as sure as the sun will rise tomorrow, I would be back to my addiction within weeks, if not days.

I contacted several people from sex addiction support groups. Every one had the same advice for me: Get into a twelve step program and start attending as many meetings as I possibly could. Well, that simply would not work for me. After I read your book, I called you, and after one conversation, I decided that I wanted you to help me.

Thanks to you, I am now able to have a normal, intimate relationship with my wife. I thought that I had loved her as much as I possibly could. But, during the counseling, I saw that my addiction was actually getting in the way of our relationship. I was indulging in this fantasy world that I had built up around me and I had little intimacy left over for my wife. Needless to say, this was having a negative impact on us not to mention making me feel guilty all of the time. Now, I'm more fully able to express my love for her, both emotionally and physically.

My work has improved as well, as a result of your counseling. I don't spend hours every day trying to appease my addiction. Needless to say, this has greatly increased my productivity at work.

For the first time in my life, I have hope. I can finally look at myself in the mirror and be happy about the kind of person that I am. I know, at last, that I am being true to myself; that I am being the kind of person that I always knew I was deep inside: a loving, faithful husband. For this, you have my undying gratitude.

Bertram [real name withheld]

If you would like to know more about how sex addiction is overcome, it will be my pleasure to spend a half hour talking to you and advising you about how to overcome your addiction at no charge.Whatever you tell me will stay in confidence. I will not try to make you feel guilty. I will not try to humiliate you. I will try to help you. Even if we never talk again, you will find that the time you and I spend speaking to each other will be beneficial to you.

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